How To Go Teetotal in your Twenties – Samantha’s Naked Life

Going teetotal at 23? Who does that? Samantha did and she’s happy to be in her teetotal twenties now thanks to This Naked Mind and others.

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My Teetotal Twenties

At the ripe age of 23, I decided to drastically change my life by giving up alcohol, for good. I was sick of waking up from blackouts, filled with anxiety about what I said or did the night before. I was tired of the dreaded headaches the morning after, and the inability to focus on the things I needed to get done. Most importantly, I was fed up with myself for not showing up in the ways I wanted to in my life. So I changed. And I couldn’t be happier that I did.

Problem Drinker

My name is Samantha, and I used to be a problem drinker. I began drinking when I was fifteen years old. Starting off with an all-or-nothing type of attitude, usually taking shots of Strawberry Lemonade vodka before parties or at friends’ houses over the weekends. I liked that when I drank I felt relaxed and could open up emotionally to my friends. It gave me a sense of letting go. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was using alcohol as a way to escape from the unresolved childhood issues that I had buried deep inside. I started turning to other substances like marijuana, too, to run away from my problems.

An Excuse to Drink More

My drinking only accelerated when I went off to college. I was drinking at least four times a week, and most of the time I ended up blacking out. Not only was binge drinking socially acceptable in that context, but it also made it easier for me to talk to new people. I continued to use booze as a way to lower my inhibitions and socialize with my peers. Justifying it in my head because I told myself plenty of other students were doing it too. It was also easy to justify because society tells us that we should “live up” our college years, which translates to drinking too much and making irrational decisions for the “memories”. Even with my justifications, it was starting to become apparent that partying was more important to me than showing up for my classes.

Looking back at old diaries, I had known that even as a freshman, my drinking had become problematic. I wasn’t even the legal drinking age, but my diary entries screamed at me to cut back. Nonetheless, my drinking continued after college and the problems only seemed to double.

More drinking, more problems

My boyfriend and I moved halfway across the country to Washington D.C. during the pandemic so that I could start my Master’s degree. We continued to drink during weeknights. When I began working part-time at a restaurant, I used alcohol as a way to connect with my coworkers. I was proud of myself because I wasn’t getting as drunk as I did in college. In fact, I drank mostly in the comfort of my own home. But eventually, I hit my low point. Blacking out after work and kissing somebody other than my boyfriend. I hadn’t even remembered it happened and was told months afterward by an acquaintance. I had always prided myself on being loyal, so I knew that something had to change.

Choosing The Teetotal Twenties

The day after I had learned about what I had done, I quit alcohol for good. I immersed myself in sober literature, and one of the most influential books I read was This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. By changing the associations I had towards alcohol, I’ve been able to stay sober for almost seven months. I also read books like Quit Like a Woman by Holly Whitaker, The Sober Diaries by Clare Pooley, and We are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen. All of these books provided me with the inspiration to keep going. I started to understand that moderation wasn’t an option for me because I had tried that approach and failed. The only way to come back to my true self was to quit for good.

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Choosing Healing

Since I quit drinking, I’ve been on a path toward emotional healing. I’ve turned to healthy coping mechanisms such as meditation, journaling, breathwork, affirmations, visualization, and exercise. Through much resistance, I’ve started therapy to learn how to deal with repressed childhood trauma. Gradually I’m working through it. I’ve undone the associations that I’ve made in my brain. I’ve learned that my inhibitions are there for a reason. I can still socialize with others, without making a fool out of myself!

Now, I know that I never have to drink again.

With a clear mind, I’ve been able to set achievable goals for my future. Slowly but surely, I am learning how to heal from my past in order to achieve my full potential in the future.

Sharing My Story

A few months ago, I started a sober blog. It is my purpose in life to help people through my writing. I aspire to lead by example and hope to act as a voice for people in their twenties who want to give up alcohol, too. It’s extremely valuable to let other young adults know that they don’t have to wait until it’s too late to better their lives by giving up alcohol. Society makes it seem as if it’s okay to drink an unhealthy amount because we’re young, and can afford to. The media loves to promote alcohol as a necessary companion to any activity, with the false narrative that “these are the times we’ll remember when we’re older.”

As someone who used to live that narrative, I can tell you that it’s all a lie. As young adults, we can take back our power and change the narrative, and live our own truth. We can live the truth that we are capable individuals that have the capacity to love, heal and socialize without booze coursing through our system. If this resonates with you, feel free to check out additional blog posts on how I’ve dealt with my sobriety on my website at The Teetotal Twenties.

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