Alexandria bought This Naked Mind before she was ready to stop drinking. Finding it when that changed was the beginning of the life she always wanted.
Enough is Enough
After a family holiday with my partner and two little kids, I decided that enough was enough.
It was a family holiday to a place where I used to live and that holds a lot of ghosts for me. I powered through more wine than water on that trip. The kids had a great time (hopefully) oblivious to my drinking which was mostly at night after they were asleep … although I was not at my best.
I came home feeling bloated, bleary, and exhausted. Mum guilt, self-loathing, and anxiety (and my waistline) were at their peak.
Finally Ready To Stop Drinking For Good
I decided to revisit This Naked Mind, a Kindle download I’d bought ages ago but hadn’t committed to reading properly. I felt ready to stop drinking for good.
I was looking for some action …
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Where Did It Start?
My parents have always enjoyed a drink, although I have never seen my Dad drunk. It was social for them, and a means to relax. Both worked hard in high-stress jobs and provided me and my brother the best childhood – wonderful memories. They never condoned or encouraged me to start drinking. My brother still doesn’t bother with alcohol, so my journey didn’t start with them.
I know I am very fortunate to have had such an idyllic childhood in a nurturing and loving environment. I know I sound like a brat when I say I kicked back on it when my hormones kicked in and I found a new crowd. My journey with alcohol started when I was 12. I started drinking vodka and Buckfast with a new group of friends I’d met. I thought they were the coolest, edgiest kids on the planet. They were all much older than me and I couldn’t believe I was accepted to hang out with them. Turns out it came at a price and actually many of them (not all) turned out to be kinda toxic and some, complete scumbags.
Why I Drank
I drank a lot. I drank to be “in” with them. Because I thought I was rebelling, making my own choices, and wanting to be like them, I suppose. At the time I would never have admitted that.
Oasis summed it up when they sang ‘I was looking for some action, but all I found was cigarettes and alcohol.’
I ended up getting into a relationship with one of the guys who had no ambition and slowly dragged me down with him. I won’t get into details but it was very abusive and the emotional repercussions I’ve suffered from that time have been long-lasting and have had huge implications on my mental health as an adult.
Everyone has a story. There are people who have much worse stories to tell than me, but I now truly believe that you are not defined by what happens to you, but how you choose to react and deal with things.
Why I Kept Drinking
Unfortunately, I just chose to self-medicate and that pattern continued (heavily) for many years … a knee jerk to whatever emotion I couldn’t deal with … feeling low, anxious, angry, down on myself. Or happy, celebrating, going out, and desperately trying to mask my social anxiety with alcohol.
It all comes down to this – I have never felt good enough.
I’ve never felt like anyone would like me enough or I wouldn’t fit in without the shroud of whisky or wine. That stems from that defining, damaging time in my life.
Finally, I am at a point where I have been dealing with some demons (and massive panic attacks). I’m trying to like myself again and make peace with my mistakes.
Why I am Ready To Stop Drinking For Good
I don’t want my children to grow up and think alcohol is the solution to their problems or their emotions. I want to be the best mother I can be, and the best version of myself. Maybe one day I can convince myself that I am good enough. This is why I am ready to stop drinking for good.
I have now not had a drop of alcohol for over a month. I feel better. I sleep better. I dream deeply and feel properly rested (most days). I have more energy for the kids and for myself. I’m thinking more clearly and focusing on building my new business and reading, rather than cracking open a bottle in front of Netflix. My skin is better and I’ve lost nearly a stone in weight. I have been exercising more and feeling less anxious and more in control of my life.
Share Your Story
Thank you, Annie Grace, and This Naked Mind. I had made a decision but your book has cemented it in my mind and really helped to justify my decision and truly understand why it was the right one. I don’t know what the future holds but I feel a change and that is very liberating.
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