Introducing Annie’s Book Club – Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

Back in the early days of This Naked Mind, I would suggest a book or another valuable piece of information at the end of every newsletter. These have always been books and resources that I personally found very valuable on my journey. Being so many years into this journey, it’s no longer about living alcohol-free for me. Now the focus is on what I can do to continue living a naked life. One that is always open, always questioning, curious, and authentic. I want to share this quest with you so that you too can live a Naked Life beyond just what is in your glass. Join me this month and every month for Annie’s Book Club!

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Annie’s Book Club – Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life – Byron Katie

This book is an excellent read that gave me a whole new set of tools to harness my thinking. I value this book so greatly that I make it a point to reread it every year or so. I have long been a huge fan of Byron Katie’s work. In fact, her book Loving What Is was highly influential on my book and my video coaching course. If you are looking for true and lasting peace in your life, I cannot recommend this book enough. As you read the book and make your way through it, I’d love it if you’d keep these questions in mind. Come back and leave a comment and let me know your answers once you’ve had a chance to process everything.


Where else can you use the four questions in Loving What Is?

The four questions Byron Katie presents in Loving What Is can certainly be applied to your relationship with alcohol but life continues to evolve and situations continue to come up that cause strife in our lives. What is a place in your life right now that you could apply the four questions to and find peace?


“Isn’t it marvelous to discover that you’re the one you’ve been waiting for? That you are your own freedom?”

Have you discovered yet that you are the key to your own freedom? Are you still waiting for something or someone else to free you?


What shoulds are you holding yourself to that prolong your suffering?


“…what you think shouldn’t have happened should have happened. It should have happened because it did, and no thinking in the world can change it…All the stress we feel is caused by arguing with what is.”


Shoulding on yourself and shoulding on others creates unrealistic expectations. What shoulds do you need to release?


More Suggestions from Annie’s Book Club

So many amazing books and resources have been mentioned in our newsletters, podcasts, interviews, and so many other places. If you’re a voracious reader like I am, you could probably use a few more books to place on your list. Here are some bonus features to check out:


Inspiring Read

I’m honored to have been friends with Darcy since childhood. In fact, we have both chosen to live alcohol-free and have both written books. Darcy’s book, Amazon Woman, is a memoir about the expedition that led her to become the first and only woman on the planet to kayak the entire Amazon River from source to sea.


Quick Read

Let’s be honest – sometimes we just don’t have time to sit down and read an entire book! I love downloading e-books for those occasions when I just need a quick read and a moment to ponder. If that is what you’re looking for, you should definitely check out “Six Vital Things You Need To Know About Moderation.” This e-book dives into the science behind how our brain operates when it comes to alcohol and how that impacts moderation! Download it here!


Audio Options

I know, I know – not everyone is a reader! If you’re more of a listener – or maybe you enjoy both – there are plenty of great options for you as well. This one isn’t an audiobook but it is a great resource instead I feel everyone needs to have in their toolbox. This is an MP3 Audio File from the University of Washington called ‘Urge Surfing’ – it is a way to really harness the Power of The Pause and reflect instead of react. It is a proven, very helpful technique to deal with cravings and urges. One thing I have learned is that being impulsive is something we continue to struggle with long after alcohol is no longer the issue. This file continues to serve me well on my journey. Listen here.


For Motivation

I’ve found that one of the things that makes the greatest impact on me during this journey is journaling. I don’t always have time to really dive into my feelings and emotions though. I do think that spending some time each day looking inward and reflecting on our thoughts and beliefs is important though. For this, I recommend using The Five Minute Journal. All of us can find a few minutes each day for working on ourselves and taking a look inside and seeing what steps we still need to take to continue to grow.


Looking Ahead at Annie’s Book Club

I hope you find this new feature helpful as you transition into living a Naked Life! Next month we’ll be reading a book that focuses on finding joy and happiness in a world that is in constant upheaval. I can’t wait to join you again for this read! Make sure to drop me a comment if you have any suggestions for future book club reads!