When you’re making a significant life change – like choosing to be alcohol-free – you assume the road to growth and self-discovery will be a straight shot. After all, you’re motivated to make this change so there’s no way you aren’t going to kill it. Yet despite our best intentions often we do have to overcome our gaps to growth in order to keep progressing. I’m going to help you identify some common gaps and guide you through them.
Gaps To Growth
I can’t take credit for all of the great advice in this post. John Maxwell, author of The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth – Live Them and Reach Your Potential, is truly the expert on this subject and his advice is invaluable! If you’re interested in diving into more reading on growth after reading this blog post I suggest you start with his book.
The Knowledge Gap
I truly feel like this is one of the biggest obstacles to growth that we face. We think we know what we need in order to change and grow. If that was true though we all would have done exactly what was needed a long time ago rather than having to go through the painful process of reshaping all of our beliefs and behaviors in order to adopt new ones. We aren’t preprogrammed with all the knowledge we need to succeed in the future but we also don’t have anything preventing us from seeking the knowledge we need in order to grow.
Be A Knowledge Seeker
Gaining more knowledge, especially when it comes to knowledge about your relationship with alcohol is an excellent way to overcome the knowledge gap. The LIVE Alcohol Experiment is an excellent way to start! Over 200,000 people have changed their relationships with alcohol in The Alcohol Experiment and you can too! Join us for:
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The Assumption Gap
I’m sure you’ve already heard what happens when you assume. Assumption is a HUGE gap to growth. When you assume that you will just automatically grow without putting in any effort, research, or work into it you get back exactly what you’ve put in – nothing. There is nothing automatic about growth. Even as children, it is our curiosity and desire to learn more about the world around us and how things work that pushes us to grow. That curiosity is also needed in order to change and grow as an adult.
The Timing Gap
Out of the gaps to growth, this one might be the one I see the most when it comes to alcohol. Waiting for the right time to stop drinking. Can’t stop drinking around the holidays, that’s too tough. Oh, need to wait until after that vacation we’ve already planned. I have a stressful month coming up at work – wouldn’t have the willpower to give up drinking then. Finding reasons to drink isn’t hard at all, so you need to find your reasons not to.
There is no perfect or right time to do anything. The Law of Diminishing Intent says, “The longer you wait to do something you should do now, the greater the odds that you will never actually do it.” Stop waiting for the perfect time to change and grow. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by choosing now as your time.
The Mistake Gap
Also common in our gaps to growth is the mistake gap. “What if I mess up?” What if you do? Isn’t that how we learn almost everything in life? From walking and talking to riding a bike, driving a car, and even our careers – we learn by making mistakes. Perfection is a standard no one can live up to and it quite frankly does not exist. Science has actually proven that the people who are most successful at change are those who allow themselves to make mistakes and to learn from them.
So if you do mess up it means you’re on the right path to success! Keep going!
Gaps Aren’t Canyons
Needing to overcome gaps to growth doesn’t mean you aren’t ready for change or that it isn’t possible for you. In fact, we all have gaps in almost every area of our lives. Athletes identify their weaknesses and work to improve upon them to be a more well-rounded player. Students take achievement exams to find out where their gaps are and work to fill them in to be more successful in school. We as adults must also realize that a gap isn’t an unpassable canyon. It’s merely a place where we’re destined to work a little harder, spend some time, and build the bridge we need to cross it.