Is it hard for you to imagine going to your lake home for the weekend or the Fourth of July and not drinking? Cruising on the pontoon with only bottled water and lemonade in the cooler? For Monica, she doesn’t have to imagine it – this is her reality – and her choice. Today, Annie and Monica discuss the emotional, physical, and mental benefits of choosing a life without drinking. Find out why setting non-negotiables can be a crucial part of a sober future and learn what 4 non-negotiables Monica has set for herself.

Episode Links:
The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober
The Alcohol Experiment

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Drinking Career

My drinking career probably started in college, and that was a long time ago, 1969 I started college. I had never had anything to drink before college, started drinking my freshman year. I would binge drink at parties. That was kind of it. In my 20s, kind of the same thing. In my 30s, I might start having a drink a little bit during the week, maybe go out to dinner with people, usually didn’t drink at home. I was single all these years, I was single until I was 43.

Weighed Down By Drinking

Then in my 40s, after I got married, we started having a drink every night. Then we started having more drinks, and then continual large amounts of drinking on weekends, and at social events. I mean, it’s just been something for a while that I’ve been thinking, “Why am I doing this? I need to not do this.” I actually heard about you and This Naked Mind, through Connect, it’s like Weight Watcher’s version of Facebook.

Getting Naked

I had said on that, you know I think if I could stop drinking I could lose weight. Somebody said, “Oh, you need to get to AA.” To which I replied, “AA just doesn’t sound like something I want to do.” And somebody else said, “You should try this Naked Mind, or Hip Sobriety.” That’s how I stumbled on This Naked Mind and you. That was probably, maybe mid December? So, I decided, “Yeah, I’m going to do this 30 day experiment.” I actually started December 27th. I don’t know why something just clicked, but just clicked. It hasn’t been difficult.

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Living Life Without Drinking

I’ve been out with other people drinking, and you know drinking is a huge part of my social life. My husband is also a big drinker. He did the 30 day experiment, but had no really desire to quit. He thought he might want to moderate afterwards, and that’s kind of what he’s doing. I all along thought, “You know, maybe I should just give this up. I’ve been drinking for 48 years, that might be enough.” Since December 27th, I’ve had two drinks. Once on Valentine’s Day, we went out for dinner, and I decided very specifically I was going to have a Martini. I did not feel good, I didn’t sleep well that night, I got acid reflux, I kind of had a headache the next day. Then, during the Oscar’s, we had some people over, our usual drinking friends. I thought, “You know, I think I’m going to have a drink.”

So, I had one shot of Vodka in a glass with ice. It didn’t do a thing for me. I thought, “Why am I doing this? I’m just wasting calories.” I don’t know, I think I might be done.

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