For some people, the transition to a sober life is not such a slam dunk. Rather, it feels like an unreachable goal that will never be achieved. Join Annie in today’s podcast as she addresses the issue of feeling ‘stuck’. You’ll learn about the 3 S’s and why it’s harder for some to live a naked life than others and what to do when it just isn’t clicking.
Stuck In Addiction
Why is it an instantaneous light bulb, spontaneous sobriety so easy, so effortless, for some people upon reading This Naked Mind, or going through the Alcohol Experiment? Then for other people, it takes a little bit more effort, and then for other people, they just continue to be stuck in addiction stringing just a few days together here or there? They write me emails and they say, “Annie, Annie, I know it all. I know everything. I want to change. My desire is to change. I’m committed to change, but I keep drinking. Why is that?”
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I wouldn’t say it’s a huge majority of people, but there are those people and I can’t help but put my attention there. I love hearing the success stories. Everyday I get probably between 60 and 70 emails, definitely thousands and thousands of emails a month, and as huge, huge majority of them are just thank you and success stories. They’re so awesome. But I have to be really honest with you, that, as awesome as that is, it’s not what pulls my heartstrings. What pulls my heartstrings is the people who know everything, they get everything, they love everything, but they just can’t figure it out. And so, I’ve been putting a lot of time into this question, why? Why is it that some people, it’s on a dime, spontaneous sobriety, no problem? And then other people really, really struggle to get through a few days, a few weeks?
The first place I started looking was, “Alright, is it physical?” Because certainly, there are instances where it is physical. According to the CDC, the Center for Disease Control, only 10% of excessive drinkers, that’s more than 8 drinks per week for women and 15 drinks per week for men, only 10% of them are actually physically or chemically addicted to alcohol. So, certainly, there is a percentage that it is physical. That unless you are literally separated from alcohol, where you have no ability to go and access it, you can’t drive yourself to the liquor store, you cannot access it, it is going to be really hard to get through those first few days. If you are in a point of physical addiction, you need to do it under medical supervision. Alcohol, at that point, in that 10%, is extremely dangerous to detox from.
That’s certainly the first thing you wanna look at when somebody just can’t get started. Are they stuck in addiction due to a physical need? Often, that is when somebody can’t get one day. If you can’t get one day, that can be a really good sign of huh, maybe something else is going on. Maybe something physical is going on. Maybe I should talk to my doctor, and that’s a really good first step because you might need additional help. There are interesting medications that are out there, there are interesting things that you can try, but really, my work is focused on the 90% where it is mostly emotional, mostly psychological, and the addiction is beyond the physical.
It’s really interesting because the physical aspect of alcohol, within 7-10 days, your body will have really started to rebalance and heal, and the detox process will be over. People report cravings for months and months or years and years in some instances, especially when they haven’t done the work to really rewire their subconscious around alcohol. Much of it is mental and so much of it is emotional but we can’t deny the physical aspect. But that doesn’t explain everybody because then I get these emails from people that have gone 30 days, they’ve gone 60 days, they’ve even gone a year. Sometimes they’ve gone three years or five years, and then boom, they’re back in it and they feel stuck in addiction again.
They remember those years and they tell me how blissful they were and how they just can’t seem to get there again. I’ve been really thinking about this and here’s what I’ve come up with. This is such a powerful way to look at things because when we know where we are, when we can have awareness of where we are in the path, we can really start to look at, “Okay, then what do I need to do? How do I need to get from where I am to where I’m going next?” Everything starts with awareness. Everything starts with understanding and accepting and making peace with where we are so we can do the right things to get to where we’re going. Here’s what I came up with.
I believe there’s three core reasons that people drink alcohol. And they are society, substance, and self.
Listen to the complete podcast to find out more about why you might be stuck in addiction and the three “s”‘s.
Special music thank you to the Kevin MacLeod Funkorama (incompetech.com)
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