Eric learned that alcohol in moderation didn’t work. This Naked Mind allowed him to finally live alcohol free and happy!
Alcohol Free For 2 Years
I have been alcohol free for 2 years after reading This Naked Mind in late October of 2018. After years of attempts at moderation, my drinking had slowly increased over 20 years. It was causing me anxiety, shame, and guilt which always led to more drinking to numb myself – it’s a vicious circle that Annie uses a great analogy of the pitcher plant – it slowly pulls you in.
After reading This Naked Mind and seeing and accepting the facts about alcohol, I knew that November 8, 2018 was going to be my last Day 1. Drinking was no longer going to part of my life. I knew it wasn’t going to be easy, but with support of family, friends, research, and the Naked Mind podcast/app/videos, I began an AF journey that has slowly led me to feeling much better, both mentally and physically.
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My story starts as a young teenager in the early 1970’s who was resourceful enough to get alcohol whenever I wanted it. Having partied in middle school and as a sophomore in high school, I saw the need to focus on school and cool the jets on my partying ways. But drinking was always part of high school and college no matter my love/hate relationship with it. I loved the social fun but hated what I saw it doing to loved ones. After college, I had long periods of heavy drinking and long periods of very little drinking. In my early 30’s I was all about fitness. I attended ACA meetings to deal with a flood of emotions I had about alcohol. I felt I had a good handle on things.
In my 30’s and 40’s I let down my guard as the social aspect of drinking was very fun. I thought I was setting a better example for my kids than I had seen. So, life was good. Wrong. As I hit my 50’s I knew that the social fun drinking now had its hooks into me. My alcohol consumption had increased to where I was drinking every day and a substantial amount. Alcohol in moderation didn’t work for me at all.
Alcohol In Moderation Didn’t Work
Down deep I knew that my denial had been strong for years. I tried to counterbalance my drinking by having intensive fitness routines, diets, and rules to help moderate my drinking. Lesson I wish I had learned earlier: the moment you start creating rules for drinking – you have a problem. As I got to my mid-fifties, I didn’t like the person I had become. I wanted to be more present, creative, and certainly healthier.
Despite huge fitness and diet efforts, the drinking lifestyle was taking a huge toll on my physical health. High blood pressure, acid reflux, high cholesterol levels – the list was long.
And the never-ending cycle of wanting to moderate and failing was causing much anxiety. I felt I was living a life that I didn’t want and was powerless to change. I felt I let down my wife and children and wanted to be a better person.
The Search For Knowledge
My path led me to further educate myself beyond my learnings from TNM. I could relate to what others had to say on the TNM app and podcasts. It gave me hope and made me feel like I wasn’t alone. I made hard choices on social interactions and my very social wife has been very supportive.
Without alcohol, I have unleashed a new quest for learning and being creative. I have migrated to a mostly plant-based diet, started writing a sci-fi story, and most importantly have become much more present in every minute of life. There are none to waste. My transformation, as I call it, has been slow but I am much closer to the vision of myself that I have for the last third of my life.
How I’ve Changed
Also, I like being a non-judgmental, but strong supporter of an alcohol-free life. I always have a copy of This Naked Mind in my house and car to give to anybody interested. (I have given away many.)
Share Your Story
My thanks to Annie and the TNM staff – keep up the great work. Sharing my story of why alcohol in moderation didn’t work is important, I hope you’ll share your story as well.